Dating as a neurodivergent adult can be both exciting and challenging, especially if you’re re-entering the dating world in your 30s or 40s. This guide is here to help you navigate the journey with confidence, offering advice on how to stay true to yourself, communicate openly, and enjoy the process. Here’s everything you need to know to embrace dating on your own terms.

Dating in your 30s and 40s comes with a heightened clarity around what you truly value in a partner.

The priorities and preferences shift from surface-level attraction to deeper emotional connections, shared goals, and mutual support.

Based on our data at Twelve Stories, we’ve identified the top qualities that successful singles are looking for in their 30s and 40s—and yes, they’re often much more nuanced than you might think.